Fri, 31 May 2019
How to find a business mentor is the main subject of the Join Up Dots episode.
Feel free to either listen to the podcast through the link above, or simply read the content below.
Lets start however with a few things that have been going on behind the scenes of the show this week.
This Week Through Join Up Dots
When we're young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be.
But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling.
Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams.
This is your blueprint for greatness.
So here's your host live from the back of his garden in the UK David Ralph
Yes. Hello. Good morning to you.
Good morning, and welcome to Join Up Dots. How are we?
Oh, I hope we are okay. You know, I can't hear anything in my ears. I'm not even sure if I'm recording at the moment.
I'm just blasting it out.
There we go suddenly, suddenly its burst into my life.
Ok, I can hear myself, I can hear myself. So I know I'm recording and I'm not wasting my time.
So how are you?
How's your week been?
Hopefully, it's been good. Hopefully, you've been rocking and rolling it.
We've been we've been doing a lot of stuff. Behind the Scenes this week, on Join Up Dots.
I've taken on this big body of work. And without going too much into it basically through Join Up Dots, I do a lot of coaching and group coaching people.
Every now and again, something comes up, and I think to myself, that's a great idea for a business. That's brilliant.
And so I started researching a business online. And I bought the domain name.
And I started doing the keyword research and looking at what the target customer is.
And it's a it was a really good business.
I thought to myself, this is what I'm going to do, I'm going to start this, and I spent about a weekend, probably about four days.
I lose track of when the weekend is as Fridays, and Saturdays don't mean anything to me now.
I spent three or four days doing this. And I've got this business platform ready to roll. But just before I started doing it, I hit the Five Year Anniversary of Join Up Dots
The Five Year Anniversary Milestone Slump
Through the show we have joined up many many dots.
As we say, "Please come back again, when you have more dots to join up as I believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our past it's the best way to build our futures."
Iwas talking to a guy who I've been connected with for quite a while called Mark Egan and he's an ex cameraman from the BBC.
I taught him to be a podcaster many years ago, and we've stayed friends.
He was saying to me, "Congratulations on hitting the five year anniversary, you know what, what you're doing moving forward?"
And I had moved into a slump.
I felt there should have been a big fanfare, there should have been something, you know, rewarding at the end of five years, and I didn't have anything.
So I kind of went into this, this depression for about three days of, I don't know where I'm heading.
I can't just keep on doing what I'm doing all the time. Because I'm going to get the same results.
As they say, "if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get the same results."
So I said, "You know what I'm gonna do, I'm just going to sort of leave it behind."
The Big Plan Moving Forward In Join Up Dots
So anyhow, I started doing the sample business.
Then through the process, I thought to myself, "no, I've already got a business, I should be going back and actually making my business is stronger."
Although Join Up Dots is going extremely well, I thought to myself, now what I'm going to do, I'm going to go back, and I'm going to work on all the shows.
I'm going to develop a strategy for it as I'm going to aim for a million listeners a month.
Okay, now there's some podcasts out there that get that. And believe me, I look at the figures. And I think I don't know how you can get those kind of numbers.
Because you're looking at something like 30,000 a day, which is a hell of a lot.
But I've started working on the whole strategy because I realized that five years of work needed to be reviewed again.
I needed to go back and join up my dots to connect my past to build the future.
So that's what I've been doing.
How To Find A Business Mentor
I was talking to another guy and he said "Can you be my business mentor?"
And I went well, you know, it's all very flattering. But you know, I've got a lot on my plate at the moment.
He he instantly started telling me what he wanted from me and sort of pressurising me into helping him.
He was like, it was kind of like going into a bar and going straight up to somebody and saying "Have this drink, eat these crisps, you're coming with me?"
You know, no one's going to do that.
Sso I said to him, "No, it's not for me, really, it's not for me."
This is what this episode is all about
How to find a business mentor,were actually you can build up the right relationship, and it works for you.
It's valuable. You certainly can't steam in on someone and say "I need your help, you know", because it's just not going to work.
So this is my thing, for guys in How to find a business mentor.
How To Find A Business Mentor - Phase One
Right, the number one.
I've broken it down into basically three strategies. There's three phases.
I would say the first phase is know what you really want. Why are you wanting to know how to find a business mentor?
Now you don't want to just go, I just want somebody to push me on.
I want somebody to, you know, show me the errors of my ways because it's too vague.
You've really got to drill down and work out what your goals are, what you're aiming for.
Then start looking at your business strengths and weaknesses.
Now one of the great ways of doing that is doing the Strength Finders 2.0 tests that you can get online.
You answer about 178 questions and it tells you your five key strengths and your weaknesses as well.
To be honest in business more often than not if you know your strengths and work on developing those, and get other people to do the work where you have weaknesses.
Its job done.
So strategy one on how to find a business mentor without making it just desperate is know what you want.
Set your goals and work out what your business strengths and weaknesses are.
How To Find A Business Mentor - Phase Two
Then start looking at your network, that you already have.
That's the second point.
Don't just think Branson, I'm gonna get Branson if he's not bit busy.
If he's too busy, I'm gonna get Ralph that's what I'm gonna do. Ralph he just he sits around in his lucky pants all the time.
He's not doing anything.
Consider your friends. There might be people locally for you. There might be a local businessmen, there might be sort of a local network, evening classes, whatever.
You don't have to steam in on some high powered businessmen, you can just go for somebody who is in your vicinity is in your network already.
They might actually know somebody that could help you.
How To Find A Business Mentor - Phase Three
Okay, so be strategic content.
Of course, you need to do your homework on the people that you come up with.
One of the best ways is the internet, have you heard of it?
You can go on there and you can find good things, bad things, you can find things that you shouldn't let other people know you're looking at.
You can find lots of stuff.
Believe me, if you listen to the early episodes of Join Up DOts ,when I first started doing doing them, I used to spend probably about two hours building the intros.
But now I can find out anything within about four or five web pages.
I know exactly where to go to find those kinds of details that make people nervours.
Stop this, that can't be out there.
So do your homework, go on their LinkedIn platform, look on the internet, try to find their biography, their history, some kind of track record.
You need to work out whether those people of course, have got the strengths and the weaknesses that you might need or may not need.
Okay, so let's summarize how to find a business mentor.
Phase one, figure out what you want, first of all.
Set your goals, your business strengths and your weaknesses, and then consider your own friends.
Do you have a local network?
Can you speak to somebody in your sort of group?
Do they know somebody?
Then once you get a name, do your homework, really find out about them. Know 100% that they're the right person.
How To Find A Business Mentor - Build Value
So now the second stage is to contact them.
Don't just sort of ask for stuff straight away. You know, one of the best ways is praise them.
You know, I get a lot of emails now.
I'm so shallow, I'm so shallow, where they sort of say "David you sexy person, or David you're gorgeous or David this or that".
I'm easily bought, I really am.
But they praise. They say some nice things, so I'm open to start a conversation with them.
Now, what you don't want to do is praise for stuff that you know, it's not true.
Why You Must Be Authentic and Honest
llI give you a story.
A guest who's going to be on my show, probably four months time, probably about August time.
He came to me last night, he said, "David, thanks for having me on the show last week."
And when we recorded it, it was good, it was really good and pleasant to have. He had passion. He had a true story.
But when he pitched through to me, it was "David I've been listening to your show, I love it, I can provide great value."
I got a feeling that he hadn't even listened to an episode, however I went with it anyway.
Whilst I was speaking to him, I was thinking this is obvious, he hasn't.
Now that kind of leaves a bad taste in a lot of podcasters mouths, because the person hasn't really done any research.
They just say "I love your show, but I haven't even listened to it."
So be genuine and be, you know, really honest about your appraisal of their work.
If you like it, tell them why. Tell them how you found it, tell them what you you enjoy about it, praise them.
Then ask them about their business. Okay.
Find out how you can help.
Is there any way that you can help them? Do they struggle with something?
You've got a good network of people, or you're willing to put some work in.
Try to provide value value value to build up a relationship.
Share some information, if they respond back to you. That's very interesting. I found this.
Maybe you would like that.
It's something that I do a lot of with other people.
I find tools and stuff that I think would be very good for podcasting.
So I send it through to people and I just say I saw this, I'm using it, I'm testing it out, maybe you would like it.
You know, I don't do anything more than that.
Then we build up these nice little relationships where they would then say to me, "oh, I was thinking about this, and maybe you'd like to be part of what ever,"
So share information that you think can be useful for these people and could help them with their business. Okay?
Then the last thing.
How To Find A Business Mentor - Final Stage
Even at that stage, don't push or pressurize them.
Don't say right now, yeah, I've done all this for you. I want this from you.
Don't pressurize you know.
Just let it go naturally, just just make them fall in love with you to build up that relationship, okay.
If at this stage, they are still not willing for it, then move on to somebody else.
You know, you've really got to think about value first value first. But don't just go invade, don't just go in, I want your help know exactly what you're looking for.
Know exactly how they can help.
Really pick them up, praise them, do your research on them, and and be genuine and honest.
Don't just say," Oh, I love your work" if you've got no idea about it in any shape, or form.
Its quite easy to really think of how to find a business mentor.
You just start with doing things the right way...thats not hard after all.
Wed, 29 May 2019
Todays guests on the show are freedom junkies and prolific content creators who have launched over a dozen businesses.They have also been coaching, speaking, writing, and teaching for more than a decade.After almost losing it all due to a sudden illness after travelling overseas, they converted their coaching and training programs into online courses.Today, they’ve created over 200 hours of content and more than 75 online courses, taken by more than 100,000 students from 191 countries.As a former psychology professor and k-12 educator, Joeel has a unique perspective on the changes occurring in education today.They are advocates for the democratisation of education and capitalising on current and emerging educational technologies to help expand access to real-world knowledge.Through their online education company, Transformation Academy, they empower other entrepreneurs to leverage their time, diversify their income, and ensure their legacy by teaching what they know and love online.So why are they so passionate about showing the world how to transform themselves?And where do they see the world of online business heading moving forward?More and more transparency and connection with the founders, or perhaps somewhere different?Well lets find out as we bring on to the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Joeel & Natalie RiveraShow HighlightsWe discuss how you can build an online business simply by researching a subject and developing material.Why so many of the successful businesses left them burnout and miserable until true passion was found.The reasons why it is so powerful to show daily gratitude in your life. Be grateful for the small things to gain from the big.Natalie shares her guilt of having a lovely life as a youngster, with nothing to truly rally against. And lastly.....Joeel reveals how he built the process of celebration into their lives, which is so important as you build success.
Mon, 27 May 2019
Introducing Lisa Avery
If you want to know how to become happy then today's guest is someone who can show us the way to a smiley world.
I know that for sure as she has done this to me every-time I spend time with her.
There are times when you meet someone through you work, who instantly connects deeper than most.
That is certainly the case with today's guest, who I am pleased to say has become a really great friend to me and the show.
She is a lady who believes 100% percent, that if you are living your purpose, doing a job that you love, then many if not all of your problems, health, mental and financial will be a thing of the past.
Which as you will see everyday on Join Up Dots is a message that I support wholeheartedly on every episode.
I believe it's not as much learning how to become happy that is the key, as it is doing the things that bring about this emotion.
How The Dots Joined Up For Lisa Avery
Building happiness into our daily routine without thinking too much about it.
She is a positive psychologist, coach and writer, who helps individuals connect with the unique passion and purpose that drives their personal and professional success.
She is obsessed with helping her clients find the thing that lights them up inside and makes them smile both inside and out.
As she says “I am fascinated by what propels a person to pursue their vocation, entwining their innate strengths, values and interests to serve both themselves and the rest of the world.
I fuse the art of Coaching with the science of Positive Psychology to help individuals gain the clarity, confidence and courage to become all they aspire to be.
So are there tips that we can all work on if we want to know how to become happy?
And is this something that is becoming more and more a problem in today's world?
Well lets find out as we bring onto the show to start joining dots with the one and only Lisa Avery
During the show we discussed such weighty subjects with Lisa Avery such as:
Lisa shares why it is so important to allow every emotion to be ok in our lives. Dont fight them but assess why you are having them.
We talk about the human need for routine and connection with our pasts. However the present is where the real action occurs.
Why it is so vitally important to things in our life which allows us to get into the flow.
Lisa openly reveals that the issues of building a business can be overcome, by surrounding yourself with people ahead of you.
Fri, 24 May 2019
When we're young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be.
But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams.
This is your blueprint for greatness.
So here's your host live from the back of his garden in the UK David Ralph
Good morning to you.
Good morning to you and welcome to the Join Up Dots business coaching podcast.
Is it a podcast? Is it a radio show?
Is it I don't know what it is? I don't know what it is.
But I'll tell you the audience what I've been doing.
Ive been doing a lot of work behind the scenes of join up dots.
A lot of people that run podcast, really focus in on iTunes and Stitcher and all the directories where you guys can just dip in and find your favorite hosts.
And for many years, I did that. And I got a really good audience.
But now I'm doing it through Google as well. And I'm really working hard on getting the SEO right on the show and exponential growth.
That's what it's about.
And if you are running a podcast out there, and you're finding that you're getting a small audience, but they're not interacting with you.
You really got to think about doing it. Like a proper business.
Don't just think, "Oh, I just throw a show up on to a website somewhere. And it's job done."
Oh, no, you've got to work both sides. So anyhow, that's what I've been doing this week. I have been doing SEO, Search Engine Optimization on all my shows, and I've done about what 400 of them.
It's like pulling teeth, but you sort of get into a routine and if you are me you need to do something else. I can't do this all day.
And that's the beauty of Join Up Dots, of course I can walk away and do whatever I want.
So how are you? How are you guys? Are you loving life? Are you all happy? Are you happy out there?
The DJ need a hug?
Do you need Mr Ralph to send these arms out like Mr. Tickle and wrap them around you?
Do you remember Mr. Tickle when you as a kid? The orange Mr. Man with really long arms. I used to find it a bit creepy.
There was two things in my life, that I found creepy when I was a little kid.
Well three actually, you're going to go back to the 70s to get there.
So a lot of this won't mean anything to anyone young.
But one was Mr. Tickle. Because he's long arms could come in wherever he wanted and do stuff to you.
He was like a sort of a long armed Jimmy Saville, I suppose. shouldn't have said that. But there you go. It's on a podcast is out there.
The second one were like these straws called Humphries.
They used to be red and white striped straws, it sounds pathetic now, but they used to nick your milk.
And they used to say "Watch out, watch out. There's a Humphrey about"
And these pink and white straws used to sort of bounce up and down.
If you remember that from the 70s. And I haven't just gone mad, then drop me a line at join up email@example.com or come over to the website and say "Yes, I remember the Humphreys and they had the same effect."
And of course, the last one which I think a there isnt one person out there who wasn't freaked about this, was the child catcher from teacher Chitty Bang Bang.
With the long nose and the creepy kind of tippy toe way that he used to move around and sniff.
I think everybody has had that in their life. And you know, that's really scary.
Because you look back on it now and you think why is it scary?
My son's actually doing a media course and he's creating his own film. It's a horror film, and he's trying to do it by putting the creepy stuff in. That's not gratuitous.
So it's not like stabbings and horrible things.
And one of the things we were talking about the other day is why are Nursery Rhymes sung slowly creepy. Why is that creepy?
I have no idea. Once again, if you know the answer, send data to me.
Well, this week, I've received two or three different emails through.
And we've got How many? We got three questions here. So it's not gonna be a long show today.
Because it's bank holiday weekend and you want to get out into pub gardens and live your life.
But of course, I will come. I'm a podcaster I have to be prepared for you.
Monday morning. Okay, it's pre recorded already. But no, I will be here live on Monday morning. And you will get a show. I promise you.
So anyhow, these are the three questions.
"Okay. Hi, David. I'm a oral hygienist in Colombia.
I listen to your show every day in Colombia. I would love to start my own business instead of working for someone else.
Do you think that this is a good idea?"
Well, I of course think this business is brilliant. Now, I started thinking about it two ways recently.
Now I'm teaching a guy, I won't give his business idea away, but a guy called Martin Gardner. And he is a guy from the Midlands of England.
And so he talks a bit funny, he, he's got a bit of a funny voice. But other than that, he's a lovely, lovely guy.
And one of the things that I've started to realize is, no matter what businesses that you create, if you learn how to grow traffic, you've got two wins.
You can either drive it into your own business and create money. Or you can take traffic away from other people, and then send it back to them.
So for example, shops and businesses, especially the local ones are historically poor, at web manipulation, and search engine optimization.
So they throw up a website, and basically hope what they can get is enough to actually pay their bills.
Now, I'm teaching Martin to create this business. And we're really excited about it, because this is gonna be a big one.
But I'm absolutely convinced he's going to change his life, as has all the other businesses that we've created this year.
There hasn't been one, that weve done through Join Up Dots. Well, I don't actually think through the process of working it out with the client.
But I should do this, I might jump on to this first, this is a great idea.
And so we've got them banging out left, right and center.
Anyhow, it dawned on us, that he could actually build a business himself, or sit away from it and actually just be a middleman driving traffic through to other people's businesses.
So they're getting more leads, they're getting more money into their businesses, through the skills from Martin gardener with a funny voice has got in his own.
So if you are anoral hygienist, Mateo, I would say to you, youve got two ways of going.
You can either be back and build a business where you are that person, and it's coming into your life.
Or you can become the oral hygienist web traffic expert, and learn the ways online to drive the traffic for that type of job to other people.
And when you make money from it, you sit in an office basically, and you are the manager of the traffic.
So I do think that you are right on your money to start thinking about working for yourself because that is where the money is.
Don't work for someone else where you're giving it all away. Or they're taking the bulk of it anyway, do it for yourself.
But that's why I'm thinking now guys, two ways. Do you want to be part of the business? Or do you want to be a facilitator for other people's businesses? And once you understand the online concept, and it really is kind of simple once you really understand it, you've got double options.
You can look at it and think do I provide leads to other people's businesses? Or do I bring it into my own?
I probably do both Really?
That way you make lots and lots of oodles and oodles and oodles and oodles.
Right okay, a second email and I like the first four words it says "David Ralph you sexy legend that always gets to my eyes"
"David Ralph you sexy legend. I don't know if you will get to see this question or your elves will whisk it away before your eyes ever see it?
Funnily enough, I've just seen it. However, I've been building a consulting business over the last five years and it's going very well.
Well done to us is from Jeannie Jeannie chambers. Oh, little Genie. Got so much love little Genie. Remember that from Elton John. Now I'm getting to, I'm going to be 50 next year. So a lot of things I talk about are rooted, rooted in the past.
So what's Jeannie doing?
Yes, she pays all her bills.
I have a steady if not consistent stream of customers. I can't complain.
I bet you do. I bet you sit there having a little moan down here. You know, I bet you, bet you do. Anyway.
However, of course I want more and more and more greedy Jeannie. Okay, and work less and less and less double greedy Jeannie.
Now, is this possible? Or do I need to start hiring staff which worries me?
I don't like the idea of losing what money I'm earning paying someone else's salaries. Any suggestions? pS Did I tell you that you are very, very attractive. Although you tell us that yourself with a smiley face.
I don't do that do I, it's just you know, I sit on my own a lot. I need adulation.
And if you're not getting adulation from people, you build it into your own life.
Keep up the great work Jeannie chambers.
Oh, little Jeannie. Why Okay, um, you have a steady, if not consistent stream of customers, that generally happens that it means you're not making the most of the traffic that you're getting through to your business.
There's three stages of traffic control, first of all, you got to grow it, then you've got to keep the traffic, and then you've got to monetize it.
And it's pretty much those three ways. Most people will struggle on all of them at certain parts of the business process. And just recently, I've had quite a big problem with actually making people commit to what they said they would do.
Okay, so people would come along and go, "Yeah, I want to sign up for you, I want to do this, I want to do that." And then you wouldn't hear from them at all.
So now I commit them to 25%. So they pay up 25%.
And then whenever they want to come back throughout the year when they're ready for it pay the rest of it, and then we're ready to work with them.
So that was something that I resolved where people were saying, "Yeah, I want to do this", I mean, you wouldn't hear from them at all.
So you're not going to be spending money on staff, but isn't ultimately going to be bringing back into your business if you get them to do the right things.
So one of the things you've got to do is make sure that that steady stream becomes the consistent stream.
So if you're paying someone, for example, to do pa and administration, then Yeah, that's probably going to take the money out of your bank account.
And yes, it will make your life easier, but won't make more money.
If you bring somebody on who is an expert at lead generation, and email marketing and that kind of stuff, Jeannie, then it's going to gain, it's gonna gain you can't hold back from the fact.
If you're using somebody to plug the gaps in your business, you're going to bring more incoming.
Now if you look at Join Up Dots its a podcast, but it's also a business coaching platform.
At the beginning. It wasn't it was just a podcast.
So I was podcasting, podcasting, podcasting and not gaining anything from it.
Then I got to a point I thought, what actually can I teach people. I can teach people how to do podcasting.
And so I started doing that, that was very up and down, until I realized that it's not what you're selling. Its the results that you're giving.
So with a podcast, anyone can do it, you just turn on the microphone, you start recording it, and you push it out.
That is not what people want. What people want is how to make a living from it, how to do it fast, how to get listeners how to transition those listeners, from listeners into paying clients.
That's actually part of the process, which you need to bring into your consulting process.
So it's not what you're teaching them, it's the results that they're getting.
So if you're not demonstrating both at the front end, you're not going to get enough people coming through because I won't see how it out. It really benefits them.
It's got to be what you're output gives them that they can't get anywhere else.
So that's one of the things that I would look at Jeannie, I would look at how is your branding of your business?
Is it actually emphasising the final results? Or is it just telling them what you do, if it's all about you, it's not going to work, if it's about them, and how their life is going to change.
For example, everything I do for Join Up Dots now is about finding ways of making making money online stress free.
So that you guys can have a stress free life. So it used to be about I will teach you best and then whatever.
And it didn't really appeal to people because they don't really care about SEO, they don't really care about, you know, website design. They don't care about branding.
But they do care about sitting on the sofa Monday morning when everybody else is going to work because incomes just flooding into their life, stress free.
So everything that I've done, has pivoted to be able to say yes, that is what I offer. That is what I can provide to the world.
And that is why my business is growing once again, exponentially.
I'm teaching people to get the results that they want in their life as easily as possible.
So don't be worried about paying someone else's salaries. But think about it.
Are you paying those salaries to plug the gaps in your business? Where those leakage is?
If you're struggling in certain areas, find the expert that can solve that. Ask them to prove it.
If you go over to Upwork or LinkedIn, they're all going to say they can do it. Ask to speak to people that they work with. If they don't do that, then they're not worth working with.
Make sure that they've got a track record.
And then Believe me, Jeannie, you will get the value back into your business. It's the easy way of doing it.
Okay, and be last question.
Last question is from Jack Wilshere. Not that Jack Wilshere from the ex arsenal?
And now West Ham player who only plays four minutes a day. It probably is.
It probably is Jack Wilshere because he's not doing anything. Now, quick question for you. If you could list five things that will stop success. What do you think they are?
This is for homework I'm doing for high school. Thank you. If you answer Jack Wilshere, up in Iowa.
Okay, so you're probably not the West Ham United Jack Wilshere.
Okay, five things that will stop success.
Right. Okay, off the top of my head. Lack of persistence.
So you you give up when it gets hard.
When it gets hard, you've got to think your way around it.
Okay. So that's the lack of persistence.
Secondly, I would say be clever where you're thinking, as I say, think around the problem.
Don't just bulldoze your way through it. Because you know, there is an easy route past all obstacles, you've just got to sit back and think things through.
That leads to the next one, which I would say is leave your business behind. walk away from it, give yourself weeks off, you will be so much better off because the ideas will come to you.
The easy ways you'll be able to see the wood for the trees.
So that's three: persistence, thinking around a problem, walking away from it, turning turning up, yeah, if you say you're going to do something, do it.
It's like the other night, I had about 45 people lined up for a webinar, I was doing where I teach you basically what internet strategies are and how you can take your business.
And you can quite simply get rid of all the effort and all the marketing and all the stuff that you haven't got control of.
Bring it to an area that you have got control of you've got the data, which means that you can find the right customers, you know that they're going to pay you and you can just sort of work accordingly.
Now I had a Yeah, about 43 to 45 people booked, the same sequence went out, telling them there's two days to it, there's one day to it, is half hour to it, you know, one person turned up.
Lovely guy from Berlin called Rob. And I did it just for him. And the two of us just walked through the process, step by step by step.
And that used to wind me up when I used to think " Why do you book and then not turn up?
But now I know that those kind of people that do that, they're not going to get what they want anyway, because they don't turn up for something, if you say you're going to do it, you do it.
And if you're flaky, and at the last minute you fancy something else in a business, you're going to find that in those kind of situation, a period of time when you've got something better you want to do.
But you can't do that you've got to do what needs to be done.
So turn up.
And the last one is dream bigger than you could possibly think.
Okay, when you start you dream, just what you think is possible.
Now, I was talking to a guy yesterday and I said to him, what you need to do is aim for 10 grand. 10 grand is what each client will pay me. 10 grand!!!
I said yeah, easily what you know, your backstory, your history, your knowledge, you can do 10 grand each time, and you will sell that.
And literally you could see in his eyes, he couldn't perceive it, he was so trapped in what he was used to, he couldn't see that 10 grand was just the starting point.
So get images around you get it all set up.
But dream bigger, you can possibly think if you're aiming, you know, join up dots at the moment.
I get 160,000 people, I'm listening to it, which in podcasting land is very, very good.
I'm aiming for a million. Now, I don't know if I'm ever going to get a million a month.
But I know it's possible because I know other people do it. Or at least they say they do it.
So that's what I'm aiming for.
I'm aiming for bigger than I possibly know how to do at the moment, and just keep on working towards it.
So that's your answer, Jack, hopefully that's going to be useful for your successful your high school. And I think that works for everybody. So what did I say?
Think around the problem. Walk away from your business, give yourself a chance to refresh, turn up, make sure that you're committed to something.
And what was the last one the last one was dream bigger dream bigger than you could possibly hope for?
Okay, so that was the Friday show, the Friday show, the Friday show. That's the Friday show.
So thank you so much for Jack Wilshere, the ex West Ham and Arsenal player.
I think that you made Jeannie Jeannie and Mateo, the hygienist and thank you for all of you who've dropped those questions through the emails.
And every single one of you think about it today.
Think about it.
If you want to start a business, or your better doing the business or providing business for other people is a good one that and so you could sit on a laptop anywhere you could be in Bora Bora on an island, driving traffic to your business but be new field off to somebody else.
It's a great business model where you get the profits but you don't get any of the issues.
And once you get to that point where it's running on its own, you've been hire a PA to manage it for you. And it's 100% passive income is a real good way of building a business. Until next time, thank you so much for being here to every single one. If you see some long arms come through your window that's not me. That's That's Mr. Tickle. And until next time, we'll see you again Look after yourselves. Thank you so much anybody need my help drop me a line at join up Datsun gmail.com. Look out for the next webinar where I'll be teaching you once again how to take a business away from the lack of control into a stress free pleasure that builds income into your life. And anything else we've got going on and join up dogs come over to the website and I will see you again soon. Look up yourselves and see ya.
Bye bye David doesn't want you to become a faded version of the brilliant self you are wants to become. So he's put together an amazing guide for you called the eight pieces of advice that every successful entrepreneur practices, including the two that changed his life. Head over to join up.com to download this amazing guide for free and we'll see you tomorrow on join up dots.
Wed, 22 May 2019
Introducing The Living Rent Free Expert Ian Usher
Living rent free is the dream for most people across the world.
You have a roof over your head, but someone else is paying for the majority of your expenses.
Seems too good to be true?
Well back on episode 138 of Join Up Dots I first interviewed a guy who had an amazing story of action taking.
Which has pushed him into living a rent free life across the world.
It was eleven years ago in 2008, when he made headlines across the world.
This was action taking born out of desperation and despondency.
How The Dots Started Joining Up For Ian Usher
He auctioned his entire life.
His car, home, job and friends all went on eBay, after his marriage collapsed six years after leaving the United Kingdom and setting up home in Australia.
He earnt £192,000 and instead of settling back into domestic life with the sudden windfall went for adventure.
He created a bucket list of 100 things to do and went out and did them.
If you want to hear how that all continued then jump over to the interview
After all the publicity died down, using an additional windfall from the Disney Corporation he bought an Island.
This wasn’t quite living rent free but was one of the dots getting him there.
Yes instead of slipping back into the typical life style of a northern Englishman he continued the adventure.
In 2011 he bought a small island off the coast of Panama in the Caribbean, which he later sold to Graham Hughes.
As he says “Once again, as I did in 2009 when my house in Australia sold, I find myself without any ties, no property, and very little in the way of possessions. And I feel incredibly free.”
So what do you do then on the road to living rent free?
How do you take this feeling of liberation and freedom and create additional income streams for yourself?
Well as we tackled on his second visit to the show, his action taking moved him into the wonderful world of house-sitting.
Upon a chance meeting with Nat and Jodie also previous guests on Join Up Dots his living rent free lifestyle started taking shape.
He now lives a life travelling the world.
Living rent free as he stays in properties everywhere, experiencing a lifestyle that others crave.
And now will be a simple step to start enjoying yourself.
So when he started house-sitting was living rent free the first thing that occurred to him, or a forgotten perk?
And how can be get involved and start living a similar lifestyle?
Well let’s find out how to start living rent free as we join up even more dots with the one and only Ian Usher.
During the show we discussed such subjects with Ian Usher such as:
Why house-sitting is an amazing way to experience life across the world whilst being free from major restraints.
We discuss the restrictions that appear in your life time and time again that arent there.
Why the life you take is always based around action taking first and foremost. No one can stop you other than you
Ian reveals how his dad showed him experiences were worth so much more than money in so many ways.
We talk about the effort that is involved in making something seem very very easy.
Other Tips For Living Rent Free
There are of course loads of ways to start living rent free if you think about it.
Mon, 20 May 2019
Introducing G Brian Benson
Today's guest has already been on the show back on in 2016 where we discussed his journey to success and liberation.
Back then he was finding his way past the restraints of working in his family business.
Breaking from those emotional restraints that can sometime trap us with family.
Then through reading about his personal self development that he has undertaken.
Not least working through the self-doubt that plagues all of us at differing time he was invited onto Join Up Dots.
How The Dots Joined Up For G Brian Benson
Our guest today truly started to change his perspective on his capabilities by undertakings several physical challenges.
By competing in over 50 Iron-man competitions he found the confidence to start easing into his creative passions.
The kind of passions that most people would say "Well that's ok...but how you do make a living from it?"
Well he has done this amazingly well and now with several published books, a TedX talk and other passions coming to the fore he is cooking on gas.
So is success built by you believing in yourself, or the world believing in you?
And when you realise that you can literally do what you want in life does that liberate or actually stop you in your tracks?
Do we need choices made for us at the beginning to really start going where we want?
Well lets find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Mr. G Brian Benson.
During today's show we discussed such weight subjects with G Brian Benson such as:
We discuss how working for yourself can sometimes be so isolating that the quality of work can go down dramatically.
These are the times when you have to reconnect with the world to find inner spark once more.
Brian Benson shares how he finally managed to grow into his talents and accepted who he is in the world.
Brian remembers how he felt great pressure to be perfect after writing his self development book.
He finally realised that just because you want to be better doesn't mean you have to demonstrator a holier than thou persona everyday.
We talk about the gift that he had inside him, and why he just knew that he had to free it no matter how long it took
Brian shares how he needed to give himself a recharge by taking a driving trip through America. His business flourished when he returned.
Fri, 17 May 2019
Greg Barth is today's guest joining us on the Join Up Dots podcast interview.
This was a man who was a great inspiration to me at the start of the show.
Back when I launched I was looking around the worldwide web searching for that X factor.
That thing when the person seemed to love their life as much as their job.
And their job as much as their life too...in fact they combine so well that it all becomes playtime.
That is when you are really cooking on gas.
Well today's guest wasn't always in that kind of place for sure, as back in 2009 things were very different
As he says " A very big shift happened for me on October 5th, 2009.
How The Dots Joined Up For Greg Barth
That was the day I decided I want to make big changes in my life.
Fast forward to today and I am now fit, think totally different, and a divorced dad to 2 daughters after 18 years of marriage.
It’s been quite the roller coaster ride but as i look back, I now know why each event happened and the challenges that I needed to face.
Each one of them made me a better version of myself and they continue to do so now.
I know what it feels like to be lethargic with little zest for life and just going through the motions.
I see things very different and know the endless possibilities and that is what I want to give to others.
I want that for YOU as well."
As we say on Join Up Dots everyday "by joining up the those dots and connecting our pasts it's the best way to build our futures"
So is he still connecting those dots, or is it now all about moving on into easier and more enjoyable days?
And when he was in his darkest area of life, what truly started him on this road?
Well let's find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Greg Barth
During the show we discussed such weighty subjects with Greg Barth such as:
Greg shares how his business operates now when he tries his best to "follow the fun" which has been a game change for him.
Why we both believe that just because you can do something it doesn't mean that you should go ahead and do it.
Why it's so hard to present reality in the online world, whilst still inspiring to follow suit and have a go.
Why a business really grows when you focus 100% on building relationships. Its the value in the relationship that really make a difference.
Wed, 15 May 2019
The Art Of Doing Nothing
It's a funny thing to think about.
Doing nothing with our days. Focusing on absolutely nothing.
Not sitting watching Netflix on the TV as that is doing something.
Not laying in bed for a lovely lay in before getting up.
But 100% switching off and just existing in your own space.
Reclaiming your energy and focus, whilst losing yourself in your thoughts
Is that possible in today's world of notifications, beeps and electronic seduction?
Can you really do nothing all day and not be classed as some kind of mad freak?
Well this week i thought i would do an experiment and discover if the art of doing nothing can be mastered.
I started with something that has screwed me up time and time again.
Meditation Has Always Been a Problem For Me
Over the years I have tried to meditate but have failed spectacularly.
It doesn't matter when I attempt to sit there and go through the meditating motions I get twitchy.
I can't get myself into that zone that i guess is the art of doing nothing with meditation.
My mind always comes up with some new idea, or banging tune to play out in my fruitless attempt to silence my mind.
So for me meditation hasn't been something that I thought I could master.
However, I thought this week "How about I don't call it meditation, but just doing nothing?"
Would this slight change of mindset make a difference to me.
Well it doesn't just have a slight difference, the difference was dramatic.
The Art Of Doing Nothing - Step One
I waited until the house was empty and the family were long gone then i got in position.
Sitting in a nice comfortable chair which looked perfect for doing nothing in, i turned to my Amazon Echo.
"Alexa, set an alarm for 30 minutes time please"
Her robotic but almost human voice announced that she was now set and doing nothing was now happening.
I started with just sitting there, looking around the room but felt a bit stupid to be honest.
I shouldn't be wasting time like this really.
Let's get it done before the family came home.
Doing nothing seems really self indulgent I discovered to my shame.
To hide my feelings of guilt and disgust I closed my eyes and simply focused on my breathing.
I felt calm, relaxed and at peace.
I was in a lovely place...it was just like meditating!!!
I had discovered the key to getting into the zone I had always struggled with in just a few minutes.
I wasn't trying to do something I was trying to do the complete opposite to something.
I found that doing nothing often leads to the very best of something.
I had allowed myself the space to slide effortlessly to where I wanted to be without pressure.
So why was this?
Why was it that doing nothing, and i mean really doing nothing has such a restorative effect to me?
Well I started digging a little bit deeper and found that their is a science behind it all.
The Science Behind Doing Nothing In Your Life
There are so many benefits to doing nothing in your life, they really come to you quickly.
However it is really hard to just go cold turkey and disconnect from the stresses of life but its so important.
Danish researchers found people who disappear from social media for example actually experience a wave of positivity and great emotions.
They stop filling out their time with needless comparisons of other peoples live and achievements.
They do however start savouring the simple things in life like a wonderful conversation with a stranger of loved one.
They get into the present and the present as they say is the real gift of life.
There are actually whole movements occurring around the world where people are trying to slow down and disconnect.
Mentally this is hugely powerful to do, and gives the brain a complete detox from electrical impulses.
Which then brings better sleep into the equation, which also makes you feel better again.
This in turn gives you more energy to do what you want in your life at full power when you choose.
Heart Issues Become A Thing Of The Past
Rushing around like a headless chicken is obviously not good for your health.
Blood pressure increases, you heart pumps furiously, and bad things happen to your blood.
We are just like an engine, and you wouldn't dream of just going full pelt for hours on end in your beloved automobile.
You would expect things to over heat and stop functioning well.
The same goes for our inner workings, and medical professionals recommend doing nothing as much as possible.
Give your self a chance to cool down your engine and get ready for the next big push.
So there you have it, if you want more energy, better sleep, more time, more focus the list goes on and on.
There is really only one thing that you can do in your life.
And it starts with "N" and ends with "G"
Go out and be lazy for awhile and you can thank me later.
Mon, 13 May 2019
Introducing Runa Magnusdottir
Runa Magnusdottir is today's guest joining us on the Join Up Dots podcast interview.
Like a few of the guests nowadays, she is appearing on the show for the second time since first appearing back in May 2015.
Back then we talked about how her life changed with the collapse of her countries economy almost overnight.
How she believed that so many people need to go through a downturn in fortune to find their true selves.
And many other amazingly interesting conversation pieces.
Now she seems to have really sped up and found her true life mission with the Change Makers.
How The Dots Joined Up For Runa Magnusdottir
The Change Makers mission with the #NoMoreBoxes Movement is to increase awareness and create BIG conversations of the limiting, isolating and divisive boxes to over 5 million people worldwide by the end of 2020 with our 2019 World Tour launching;
Facilitating and ultimately creating a safe space for a deep and meaningful conversations around the often invisible and limiting boxes human beings either place themselves or others into.
Training, teaching and certifying conscious organisations, businesses how to set up and facilitate their own #NoMoreBoxes Breakfast Clubs.
Enabling them to build an inclusive culture where people feel safe to have deep non-judgemental conversations around the boxes they have placed themselves or others in.
In 2019 the main topic will be a around these 3-Boxes: THE GENDER, GENERATION and GOOD ENOUGH BOXES
Raising awareness around the consequences of the limiting boxes and co-creating the world where humans thrive, regardless of their gender, race, religion, age etc.
Now if that doesn't really seem clear then we will delve deep to bring clarity.
So does she see this stage of her career a natural progression from where she was?
Or has this taken her by surprise and made her realise that she wasn't thinking big enough just a few years ago
Well let's find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Runa Magnusdottir
During the show we discussed such weighty subjects with Runa such as:
Runa shares why we have the problem that we cannot see what is in front of us no matter how obvious it might be.
We discuss the differences between being a human doer and a human being, and why it is so important to grasp.
Why we should be growing our awareness of the choices being made for us, instead of allowing others to make those choices.
Why it is ok to allow yourself to play and have fun everyday. Even if you are an adult who left play behind years ago
Fri, 10 May 2019
Today’s guest joining us on the show, is a man who first connected with Join Up Dots looking for some help. He was trapped on the corporate merry go round and couldn't see the next step to the future that he wanted. But as we see on Join Up Dots everyday, the actual truth is he didnt need to look forward as much as looking backwards. All of us have got to a point in our life where we have had a lifetime of experiences. We had daily epiphanies and lightbulb moments that we either jump all over, or push to the back of our minds and think "Nah, not for me....I dont know how to do it" Well today as you will hear on the show, Benjamin was in that very same position. He was working for the man, delivering huge results but gaining very little for himself. As they say he was busy building someone else's dream and leaving himself with very little time or energy to change things for the better for him and his family. However he has done this and created Sales Compass Coaching from his home in Orlando Florida Ahe he says "My goal is to help those that seek coaching and consultation cut through the noise and chatter and begin a real, one-on-one journey with us that will lead them to the quickest path to greater sales and profit attainment. I have over 20 years experience coaching and consulting on the behaviors that drive increasing revenues with just about every vertical market. I've worked with thousands of salespeople, sales managers, business owners, franchisees, and franchisors - all with the same common goal - to increase their effectiveness in new client acquisition and creating greater revenue and profit." Does this inspire you to do the same? Are you ready to take the skills you have built up and make it in a life changing business? If you are we are ready to help you. Send us a voice message and lets get the ball rolling for a bright new future.
Wed, 8 May 2019
Introducing Email Marketing Mastery Expert Tom Trush
Over five years ago before there was even a show called Join Up Dots I sent an email out to our guest today Tom Trush.
To be honest I can't remember how I found him.
I can't even remember the reasons why I invited him on my fledgling show for episode 17
However I certainly can remember the majority of the conversation that we had that day such was the effect it had on me.
Tom Trush is a Email Marketing Mastery and copyright expert and as he says "You know that feeling you get when you’re not generating the leads you want from your marketing?
Or the frustration of knowing you should be marketing more — but don’t know what to write or where to focus your efforts?
He now finds himself as the go to man for “Direct Response Copy writing”, and don’t worry I don’t know what that is either…..but we will soon.
How The Dots Joined To Gain True Email Marketing Mastery
He states that it was a game of baseball, but not actually getting on the pitch, and working in a library that started the path that he followed into adulthood.
And that is a hard one to join up the dots with in any shape or form.
But after working in a library as a teenager, Mr Trush picked up two books that quite simply changed his life.
By studying the subject, and developing his skills, it has know taken him all the way back to the library, joining the authors of those two books with three of his own
Since October 2001, I’ve been writing marketing materials that give entrepreneurs and executives — in 120+ industries — an alternative to the typical corporate nonsense that makes most outreach efforts useless.
From website content and direct mail to special reports and email campaigns, he now shows you how simply changing your perspective on prospects can help position you as an industry authority.
Deliver higher returns on your marketing investments and allow you to reach larger audiences with less effort.
As he says "The fact is, your prospects are more informed now than at any time in history.
This takes real email marketing mastery.
Easy accessibility to information has shifted the power away from anyone pitching products or services.
To see success with your marketing these days, you must deliver extreme value to even have a chance at capturing interest and closing clients.
So has things changed in his business and his mindset since the last time we spoke?
And is copyrighting about simply speaking in the first voice, so it's like a conversation?
Well let's find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Mr. Tom Trush.
During the show we discussed such weighty email marketing mastery with Tom Trush as:
Why email marketing mastery is always about speaking in the real voice and starting a conversation with your.
How a call to action is such a key component to marketing that people often over look bigtime.
Why swipe and deploy is such an amazing strategy to find the true emotion of the written word.
How we can all get to the point where we lose the challenge and the thrill of building a business. However that is when the real work starts.
Mon, 6 May 2019
Introducing Maggie Tuczapska
Facebook Ads is why our guest on today's episode of the Join Up Dots podcast is Maggie Tuczapska
A lady who for over ten years now has been creating online businesses, and of course income for herself too.
Starting her life in Poland, she now lives in the South of England where her eCommerce business develops.
As she says "I discovered my big passion when I launched my first eCommerce business.
It was 2007 and Google bots were still little crawlies.
I was fascinated by consumer behaviour and the art of turning visitors into buyers, subscribers and followers.
How The Dots Joined Up For Maggie Tuczapska
Studying this topic for years, I discovered how to use the right words, colours and images to trigger positive emotions and build trust.
After recent Google updates, these skills became essential in ranking well.
Great content will always beat even the best marketing strategy.
At the end of the day, why attract tons of visitors if none of them become a paying customer?
So many people nowadays quote numbers as an indicator of success.
This if of course a metric that shows progress, but business is ultimately about the bottom line.
There's no point in having a billion Instagram followers if you are unable to pay your bills.
So is there a huge failing that she sees time and time again when viewing other peoples businesses?
And if she could go back in time and do things again then what would she change?
Well let's find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up the dots with the one and only Maggie Tuczapska
What Are The Key To Facebook Ads Success?
The first thing is dont try it on your own. You will waste money.
So hire a Facebook ads expert instead.
The second thing is dont try to sell, but instead try to build a relationship.
Facebook ads work best by trying to gain a click.
Use your Facebook ads strategy to mine data first and foremost.
Find out who your ideal customer is by the info you gain.
Why it is so important to really focus down on the niche and needs of an individual customer not simply go after the masses.
Facebook Ads are an amazing way of targeting the perfect customers. but don't go for the sale straight away. Go for the data.
Maggie reveals how if her first business wasn't a success she might have not considered herself and entrepreneur.
The reasons why colour and mood of your online business can kill your chance of success before it even starts.
Fri, 3 May 2019
Five years of podcasting is a hell of a journey for sure.Which is what this show today is all about.You see on the 3oth April 2014 an unknown chap from the UK powered up his microphone and went live to the world.He was scared.He was excited.And he was most definitely extremely naive about what it took to create a successful podcast and online business for sure.You see the world is full of people who look like they have it made.They post pictures onto the social media streams showing you how great their lives are.They tell you that you can have it too if you only want it enough.However they don't then tell you that it's taken them five years simply to get to that position in the lives.Five years...who wants to wait that long to get the dream?How The Dots Joined Up In Five YearsThe biggest mistake I made five years ago was thinking that things would take six months.If I only put a million percent of effort in everyday I would get where I wanted to be quickly.But that isn't how life is really....is it?If you get a Ferrari out on the roads of Britain, just because it can go 200 miles an hour doesn't mean it ever will.The potential to get there faster is not ever going to be achieved no matter how much you try.That is the same in business, and you have to accept that five years might be a better target to set.Five years is not a long time in the great scheme of things, if your life changes to the dream-life that you want.As they say "An entrepreneur is someone who will work like nobody else for five years, so they can live like nobody else for the rest of their life"So lesson number one: Work hard but don't force it.Lesson Number Two Learned Through The DotsI certainly never considered my health before I started Join Up Dots.I never needed to as it was always something that I had.Five years ago before the show, I worked in an office where I started at 8:00am and left at 4:00pm daily.It wasn't hard at all.It was very very boring, but could never be classed as hard so my health was good.Roll on a few years and the effort that I was putting into Join Up Dots was a very different story altogether.Hour upon hour of effort and toil took its toll on me and the health gave way.I started quite honestly to fall to pieces and it took me years to get myself back on track again.Back to Ferrari story, you cant work harder than your problems no matter what you think.You have to be clever and find away around those issues in the easiest way possibleFive Years On Where Am I Heading?That is the exciting part of working on a project like Join Up Dots.You can literally go in any direction you want to head in.Do you want more money to come into your life?Then make that happen.How about having more and more listeners and a global following?The same for that too.It might have been five years in the making but once you find your passion then you dont consider the years.You dont think "Wow this has taken five years what a struggle"Instead you think "It doesn't matter that five years has past I am just getting going"That is the real lesson everything that I have learned up to this point.You are on a journey throughout your life and there is no time limits to set.Five years, fifty years, one hundred years...its all the same.Thank you so much for anyone who reads this post or who listens to the Join Up Dots podcast.We would love to hear from you with your comments, or inspirational stories.Simply click here and we will connect.If you want to be a guest on the show then also simply click here
Wed, 1 May 2019
Introducing Street Dating Expert Johnny Berba
Street dating expert Johnny Berba is today's guest joining us on the Join Up Dots podcast interview.
Johnny is an amazing guy who has already been on the show back on episode 497 and shared his journey from lost soul to street dating success.
He is a street dating expert who does things in a very different way to how most men operate across the world.
Instead of trying to pick ladies up in I suppose the expected places..nightclubs and pubs.
Johnny Berba walks up to ladies bodily on the streets of the UK and confidently gets telephone numbers and addresses.
How The Dots Joined Up For Johnny Berba
As he says “I decided that I would no longer hit the nightclubs and would drop all the pickup lines and routines.
It was time to return to the streets to find a girlfriend.
Just work on being myself and allow my conversations to freely flow in whatever direction they would naturally go.”
Gaining confidence in his new found skills he started going out on the streets of London.
He would film his interactions for fun and posting them on Youtube.
Not just his successes, as he also added the process of filming, monitoring, and allowing all the mistakes he was making shown to the world.
Slowly and steadily he fined tuned them for better results.
His channel started growing slowly and caused stirrings within the London dating world as many believed that being ‘a natural’ was not the way to go.
Ignoring this, he stayed strong and continued to push his beliefs which eventually led to inspiring a large platform of guys to take action.
Now his business is going from strength to strength.
And it seems to me he is enjoying it more than ever.
So has he got to the point where the money making aspects of running a business are getting easier and easier?
And are there things now that he realised he was never going to enjoy doing, although were a big part of his earlier business.
Well let's start joining up dots with the one and only street dating expert Johnny Berba.
During the show we talked to Johnny Berba about such weighty subjects such as:
How the street dating legend has grown from the geeky young man at school to a confident and successful businessman.
Why by winning the inner game you will win the outer game not just in business but in life too.
Johnny shares how his early stages of online life was based around comedic routines, more than a structured business plan.
We talk about how Johnny has moved away from street dating and is expanding into new areas of income.